Today I am throwing out something that you can't see - you may think I am cheating here (I am the one making the rules on this decluttering thing for myself) but I have decided to toss out my ideals of being a mother. You see about 2 or 3 days ago I found myself sitting, talking to God about how I felt I had failed as a mother, (I'm sure this isn't a new concept to some mums - if not all) but after a good chat with a few close sistas tonight I can see that I am actually not such a bad mother after all, or at least not as bad as I originally thought. If you are a mum, you will know that being a mum is not the easiest job (as some who aren't mothers might think). High stress, no pay and the rest! But it is probably one of the most rewarding (at times). So, today I throw out the negative ideals I have about being a mum and am simply going to do it the best I can - I mean, seriously, that is pretty much how mums have always done it. I will no longer try to be the perfect mum, but I will try to be the most loving, encouraging and forgiving mum!
On that note, of not throwing anything out except ideals, I must tell you that I added objects to my life today -ok so not always a bad thing but this was for Asher! We spent the morning in a local thrift shop - Asher playing with a car he found in the toy section and me perusing children books! As it turns out there are some great books that people don't want anymore. I ended up buying 5 books for $2!!! I got him some great classic books - which he loves! I figure when it comes to books - you can never have too many for kids!
We also stopped by a Toy Factory Outlet and I got a few musical instruments for under $3 each, some cookie cutters (both for Christmas) and some new crayons. Then we came home for a nap and then it was off to the beach for the afternoon for Asher to ride his bike along the paths there for the first time!
Today I was grateful for time alone with my son. Although I get it often, for some reason today I appreciated it more! Which really is the most important thing.
P.S.
About motorbikes. Ok, so I don't really like motorbikes and have never really been interested in them at all! In the past my friends and even my little brother have bought motorbikes and I have looked at them and thought "whatever"! BUT... I have to tell you, my youngest brother Steve brang his new bike over tonight to show us and I have to admit I was a little "ok, here we go... better admire this new thing..." but I was taken aback a bit when I realised just how cool it is! It is the first motorbike that I am kinda jealous that I don't have one the same! Good work baby bro!
3 comments:
Good to hear you are throwing out that attitude! For sure EVERY mum has had those thoughts at one stage or another, but know that it is so not true about you!
It's so easy but damaging to compare ourselves to each other or to the world's standards, even as a mum. I think you've just got to do the best with what God gives you, as he gives it. And pray... a lot!
I can really relate to this post, Debbie. I want to share one of my favourite blogs, if you're interested. It's written by 2 Christian mothers, with wonderful insights and thoughts, and they write a lot about the ideals and expectations of motherhood, about letting go of those kinds of things. It's a good blog - http://themommyrevolution.wordpress.com/
Oh, I also just wanted to say,I love your new look for the blog! It's beautiful! The artwork on the heading is fantastic - did you create that? Haven't stopped by for awhile, so I missed a bit, but I'm trying to catch up today and really enjoying it. Hope you and Asher have a lovely weekend :)
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